Saturday, October 18, 2014

Opinions are like...

It's funny, how being pregnant (and, as I've seen from Facebook posts, being a mom) suddenly means that everyone feels they have a right to tell you what to do

I have been so exhausted during this first trimester- I haven't been sick at all, so I can't complain very much at all. However, for someone who has usually had a lot of zip in her step and can tackle any to-do list with no fear, this sluggishness has been difficult.

I was so proud of myself this morning; I decided I'd finally go back to the gym after 8 weeks off (literally to the day). I was so delighted I was going, I posted as my Facebook status I was finally going to the gym to fight off this exhaustion I've been battling for weeks. You'd think I had said I was going to go to the street corner to buy some crack. Most people commented that I should just stay at home and rest. One person told me I should check with my doctor. I immediately felt frustrated... I appreciate the concern, of course. But why is everyone telling me I should sleep? And I'm not so ignorant I wouldn't get cleared by my doctor to go to the gym (who, by the way, told me the best way to get more energy would be to exercise regularly).

I always think about my mom's observation when I was planning our wedding in 2012. She told me "Everything is so competitive now. Who thought wedding planning could be so gnarly?" I would say the same thing applies to raising children/being pregnant now. It's so hard to just go with the flow when you have 5,000 different sources of information saying completely conflicting things. Celebrity moms look perfectly coiffed at all times- which is really hard to do when NOTHING you own fits and you feel like a blimp- and blogs and articles telling you "how it is" and what you should do and why the way you want to do it is wrong. Pinterest gives you so many ideas to create a picture perfect life.

However, I'm realizing, with most things in life, you have to follow your instinct- and your doctor's advice, too. As I get older and older, I'm realizing my gut is usually right. It's right about people, it's right about the next steps, and I believe it will be right when I have this baby.

It's so easy to be judgmental. [I do it, too.] But I think sometimes, we just need to take a chill pill. Everyone is doing what is right for them and for their child. Don't offer advice unless it's asked for. Don't be overly solicitous and spew words that only starts to make me feel shaky and like I'm doing it ALL wrong. I'm not. I'm not perfect, but then again, who is? I'll figure this out, with the help of my amazing husband. If I decide to vaccinate right on schedule, or wait a bit between immunizations, or if I find I can't breastfeed and do formula, and don't want to do disposable but instead go with cloth diapers- it's my choice. Mine.

Thanks for the input and for caring. I know you are coming from a good place... but I'm going to figure this out my way.  I truly believe in "learn by doing." Sometimes, that's the only way to navigate life.

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

If loving Autumn makes me basic...

I'll happily be "basic."

What's so wrong with being "basic?" According to, basic means: an adjective used to describe any person, place, activity involving obscenely obvious behavior, dress, action OR Unsophisticated

I've seen a Buzzfeed list called "How To Dress Like a Basic B&^%$ for Halloween." I kid you not. Or "18 Things You'll See at Every Basic Girl's House." I don't see these things as basic or unsophisticated. Perhaps it's obvious to burn an apple pie candle in the fall. Or to wear Uggs when the weather is cold out... I guess it's also obvious to wear a sweater in the fall. However, obvious in this sense can also be equated to 'common sense.'

I'll just sit over here with my Uggs, Frenchie mugs, and seasonal candles. I'm happy being "basic."

Saturday, October 4, 2014

Wild and crazy weekend night routine!

Weekend nights used to mean picking out a hot pair of heels, finding a flattering top that would hide my 3 to 4 night a week bar habit, and pre-drinking as I took a shower, did my hair, and tried to do my makeup. (Yup, sometimes those beers would join me in the shower. #colllegeproblems)

Things have changed a lot in 5 years. (Not to say I still don't get that crazy itch to go out. I do. But my 5.30 AM call time 5 days a week takes it out of me. It's a big deal if I muster up the energy to get turnt up, especially since I can't drink right now!) I've developed a routine, especially with the start of the school year and my need to decompress becomes paramount to prevent burn-out.

Before I take a (quick, efficient) shower (because I do live in California and we're in a  big fat drought!) I put in my whitening trays. I had custom made trays, which were a big splurge, so I cut a corner and buy the 5 minute, $5 whitening gel from Wal-Mart (Ew. I know. Order it online!!!) It works just as well as the 15 dollar for 1 oz tube I purchased from the dentist. I prefer to whiten while I'm in the shower so I can spit out the whitening gel that tends to ooze out from the trays. [Side note: I'm abstaining from bleaching during pregnancy because "they" say to. Just an FYI]

Because I live in California, I take Navy-style showers- you know, turn on the water, rinse face, turn off water, wash face, turn water back on to rinse, etc., etc. [I'm one of those water use Nazis... Can't help it, I teach agriculture!] 

After I finish in the shower, the real fun starts. I love LOVE love facial masks and treatments. Depending on my skin needs, I use one or both of the following to treat and indulge on any Friday night:  

Fresh Rose Face Mask  Smells as good as it works!
The Body Shop Seaweed Ionic Clay Mask I love that this is simple and effective. My pores look and feel super clean after a go round with this guy

I use fancy- and also a not fancy, but effective- serums before I moisturize my face:

Estee Lauder Advance Night Repair Synchronized Recovery Complex II I didn't believe the reviews until I used it myself. For real. 
Olay Regenerist Serum Yea, not fancy. But darn effective. Allure called this one a winner, and I agree.
Garnier Nutritioniste Skin Renew Anti-Dark Circle Roller  I was using the Clinique version of this (and liked it) but if I can save some almost $30 for a comparable product, I'm going to do it. This works pretty well. 

Last but not least, my very favorite discovery of ALL time: Clarins Lotus Face Treatment Oil  Oh. My. Gosh. I love this stuff. I bought it 2 years ago and have been hooked. My face is less oily, and my skin loves it. I am going to try the Blue Orchid Face Treatment Oil simply because I want to see if my skin will look a little dewier in the winter with more moisture. If it doesn't work, I'm going back to Clarins to exchange!

Last, I put on my body moisturizer: The Body Shop Almond Body Butter. YUM! I love the smell and feel, and I always am able to get it on sale. Winning! 

I have to say the proof is in the pudding- check out this comparison of passport photos from 2006 to 2014:

It's amazing what a better, well thought out skin care routine, better eyebrows, and 30 lost pounds can do! :) Happy Sunday, and make sure you treat yourself well. A Sunday well spent brings a week of content! 

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Throwback Thursday

A few that made me smile as I was looking around through my files:

 Seacliff Beach, Santa Cruz, 2009, I'm guessing 

Definitely college. 2007 or 2008, night out with the roommates

The same night out with the roommates... I seriously loved those bangs, but the upkeep...

My friend Amy's wedding. Photo by Weston Neuschafer Photography

St. Patrick's Day 2008

What amazes me is that I've been blogging (off and on) for so many of these memories. Life is so, so good. 

Monday, September 29, 2014

Goals for the week of Sept 29

Image from Instagram account @getyouthrough

Maybe if I write them down, I'll be a little better about following through...

1. Go to the gym at least 3 times. Stay for longer than 20 minutes 
I don't have the "I'm in my first trimester and I'm exhausted!" excuse. I also don't have the "I worked 60+ hours this week and I'm pregnant!" excuse. Nope, this week will be normal, and I need to buckle down and get back on the Stairmaster, my cardio of choice. And some pushups wouldn't hurt either.

2. Don't eat ice cream every day.
This is obvious. I am already gaining too much weight. I should eat pears and strawberries instead.

3. Finally schedule a facial because I really, really want one
My esthetician cancelled on me the day before my last appointment because apparently she bounced the salon. I never did get the story. I need to find a new facialist and get these pores cleaned out!

London for Christmas? Oh, yea, baby. I paid good money to get my passport expedited, so I'm going to use it! 

5. Relax and update grading.
I've got piles of it, because I have been out of the classroom a total of 9 days with student activities and professional development. I've got lots to do! But my cardinal rule is I don't take it home, so I have to do it while at work! 

Have a wonderful and productive week! XO