Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Things I've learned so far at 15 weeks pregnant

I'm only 15 weeks in, and I'm quickly realizing how little I knew about pregnancy. I mean, yeah... I read the ENTIRE "What to Expect When You're Expecting" before I was even pregnant (against well meaning advice not to, no less). But, just like my Cal Poly professors said- you can go to UC Davis and read about palpating a cow and go to a lecture at UC Davis about palpating cows, but at Poly, you actually palpate the cow. And boy, is there a big difference! [Side note: I'm was an agriculture major, so I did, in fact, learn about things like this.]

So, yes... it's different once you've actually become pregnant.

Here's my list, in no particular order:

1. I'm not infertile. I wish I could have told my 19, 22, 25 and 27 year old self this. I stressed about this for years. (This is obviously a duh statement, but the amount of sleep I lost over this was probably the most pointless thing EVER.)

2. My poor belly button already looks sad. I knew my stomach would be impacted. I neglected to think about my navel.

3. People will treat you like you are disabled. I personally don't like it. I can use a shovel and weed the garden! I'm not disabled, just pregnant. 

4. I cannot control everything. I wish I could... but at some point, I have to let some things go. For instance, during a search on target.com, I came upon this product.  As if I don't have enough to worry about, like good foods/bad foods and prenatal vitamins and nursery decorations and genetic testing and strollers and car seats and if Kermit will be good to the baby and if I'll make enough milk to breastfeed and what kind of diaper to use and who our pediatrician should be, and is it okay if I bleach my teeth every once in a while? (That's the short list.)

5. Exhaustion during the first trimester... it does NOT mix well with 60 hour work weeks and early work mornings. Not at all. [I almost ripped off my poor student's heads. Good thing they knew and didn't take it personally..]

6. My husband is incredible. He deals with my ups and downs, bad moods, and exhaustion. He lets me take naps instead of doing the dishes after he cooks. He loves me even as my old friend cellulite reappears and my muffin top goes from mini-muffin to Costco muffin-size. Bless his heart.

7. No matter HOW tired I am or terrible I feel, something within me makes me get 'ready'. It may be a sock bun, cigarette pants, pointy flats, and a blouse, but I will NOT throw my hair up into a half pony tail and wear gym clothes. I just can't do it... I've always been this way, and it doesn't look as though I'm going to change too much. {I hear all you naysayers saying "wait til the baby gets here!" Well, let me tell you, I watched my dear friend get dressed and ready when she had a newborn in the house because it made her feel better. I'm the same way. Never say never... but a leopard doesn't change its spots.}

8. Drinking lots of water prevents afternoon headaches.

9. Some friends are amazing and supportive. Some friends will fall away. That's okay. That's the way life works.

10. Being scared is totally normal.

11. I'm totally digging my pregnant lady hair. Ooo, yea. 

12. Life is really, really, really good. Most people are really, really, really nice.

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Opinions are like...

It's funny, how being pregnant (and, as I've seen from Facebook posts, being a mom) suddenly means that everyone feels they have a right to tell you what to do

I have been so exhausted during this first trimester- I haven't been sick at all, so I can't complain very much at all. However, for someone who has usually had a lot of zip in her step and can tackle any to-do list with no fear, this sluggishness has been difficult.

I was so proud of myself this morning; I decided I'd finally go back to the gym after 8 weeks off (literally to the day). I was so delighted I was going, I posted as my Facebook status I was finally going to the gym to fight off this exhaustion I've been battling for weeks. You'd think I had said I was going to go to the street corner to buy some crack. Most people commented that I should just stay at home and rest. One person told me I should check with my doctor. I immediately felt frustrated... I appreciate the concern, of course. But why is everyone telling me I should sleep? And I'm not so ignorant I wouldn't get cleared by my doctor to go to the gym (who, by the way, told me the best way to get more energy would be to exercise regularly).

I always think about my mom's observation when I was planning our wedding in 2012. She told me "Everything is so competitive now. Who thought wedding planning could be so gnarly?" I would say the same thing applies to raising children/being pregnant now. It's so hard to just go with the flow when you have 5,000 different sources of information saying completely conflicting things. Celebrity moms look perfectly coiffed at all times- which is really hard to do when NOTHING you own fits and you feel like a blimp- and blogs and articles telling you "how it is" and what you should do and why the way you want to do it is wrong. Pinterest gives you so many ideas to create a picture perfect life.

However, I'm realizing, with most things in life, you have to follow your instinct- and your doctor's advice, too. As I get older and older, I'm realizing my gut is usually right. It's right about people, it's right about the next steps, and I believe it will be right when I have this baby.

It's so easy to be judgmental. [I do it, too.] But I think sometimes, we just need to take a chill pill. Everyone is doing what is right for them and for their child. Don't offer advice unless it's asked for. Don't be overly solicitous and spew words that only starts to make me feel shaky and like I'm doing it ALL wrong. I'm not. I'm not perfect, but then again, who is? I'll figure this out, with the help of my amazing husband. If I decide to vaccinate right on schedule, or wait a bit between immunizations, or if I find I can't breastfeed and do formula, and don't want to do disposable but instead go with cloth diapers- it's my choice. Mine.

Thanks for the input and for caring. I know you are coming from a good place... but I'm going to figure this out my way.  I truly believe in "learn by doing." Sometimes, that's the only way to navigate life.


Wednesday, October 8, 2014

If loving Autumn makes me basic...

I'll happily be "basic."

What's so wrong with being "basic?" According to UrbanDictionary.com, basic means: an adjective used to describe any person, place, activity involving obscenely obvious behavior, dress, action OR Unsophisticated

I've seen a Buzzfeed list called "How To Dress Like a Basic B&^%$ for Halloween." I kid you not. Or "18 Things You'll See at Every Basic Girl's House." I don't see these things as basic or unsophisticated. Perhaps it's obvious to burn an apple pie candle in the fall. Or to wear Uggs when the weather is cold out... I guess it's also obvious to wear a sweater in the fall. However, obvious in this sense can also be equated to 'common sense.'

I'll just sit over here with my Uggs, Frenchie mugs, and seasonal candles. I'm happy being "basic."

Saturday, October 4, 2014

Wild and crazy weekend night routine!

Weekend nights used to mean picking out a hot pair of heels, finding a flattering top that would hide my 3 to 4 night a week bar habit, and pre-drinking as I took a shower, did my hair, and tried to do my makeup. (Yup, sometimes those beers would join me in the shower. #colllegeproblems)

Things have changed a lot in 5 years. (Not to say I still don't get that crazy itch to go out. I do. But my 5.30 AM call time 5 days a week takes it out of me. It's a big deal if I muster up the energy to get turnt up, especially since I can't drink right now!) I've developed a routine, especially with the start of the school year and my need to decompress becomes paramount to prevent burn-out.

Before I take a (quick, efficient) shower (because I do live in California and we're in a  big fat drought!) I put in my whitening trays. I had custom made trays, which were a big splurge, so I cut a corner and buy the 5 minute, $5 whitening gel from Wal-Mart (Ew. I know. Order it online!!!) It works just as well as the 15 dollar for 1 oz tube I purchased from the dentist. I prefer to whiten while I'm in the shower so I can spit out the whitening gel that tends to ooze out from the trays. [Side note: I'm abstaining from bleaching during pregnancy because "they" say to. Just an FYI]

Because I live in California, I take Navy-style showers- you know, turn on the water, rinse face, turn off water, wash face, turn water back on to rinse, etc., etc. [I'm one of those water use Nazis... Can't help it, I teach agriculture!] 

After I finish in the shower, the real fun starts. I love LOVE love facial masks and treatments. Depending on my skin needs, I use one or both of the following to treat and indulge on any Friday night:  

Fresh Rose Face Mask  Smells as good as it works!
The Body Shop Seaweed Ionic Clay Mask I love that this is simple and effective. My pores look and feel super clean after a go round with this guy

I use fancy- and also a not fancy, but effective- serums before I moisturize my face:

Estee Lauder Advance Night Repair Synchronized Recovery Complex II I didn't believe the reviews until I used it myself. For real. 
Olay Regenerist Serum Yea, not fancy. But darn effective. Allure called this one a winner, and I agree.
Garnier Nutritioniste Skin Renew Anti-Dark Circle Roller  I was using the Clinique version of this (and liked it) but if I can save some almost $30 for a comparable product, I'm going to do it. This works pretty well. 

Last but not least, my very favorite discovery of ALL time: Clarins Lotus Face Treatment Oil  Oh. My. Gosh. I love this stuff. I bought it 2 years ago and have been hooked. My face is less oily, and my skin loves it. I am going to try the Blue Orchid Face Treatment Oil simply because I want to see if my skin will look a little dewier in the winter with more moisture. If it doesn't work, I'm going back to Clarins to exchange!

Last, I put on my body moisturizer: The Body Shop Almond Body Butter. YUM! I love the smell and feel, and I always am able to get it on sale. Winning! 

I have to say the proof is in the pudding- check out this comparison of passport photos from 2006 to 2014:

It's amazing what a better, well thought out skin care routine, better eyebrows, and 30 lost pounds can do! :) Happy Sunday, and make sure you treat yourself well. A Sunday well spent brings a week of content! 

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Throwback Thursday

A few that made me smile as I was looking around through my files:


 Seacliff Beach, Santa Cruz, 2009, I'm guessing 


Definitely college. 2007 or 2008, night out with the roommates


The same night out with the roommates... I seriously loved those bangs, but the upkeep...


My friend Amy's wedding. Photo by Weston Neuschafer Photography


St. Patrick's Day 2008

What amazes me is that I've been blogging (off and on) for so many of these memories. Life is so, so good.